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I am often reminded of a scene from "Good Will Hunting": Will and his friends, having gone to a "Harvard bar" to cruise some university babes, find themselves in a verbal confrontation with a 2nd year Graduate Student debating some philosophical point about capitalism in the US. The Grad Student then goes too far by testing the intelligence of Will's best friend. When the scene hits its climax, Will destroys the arrogant Grad Student noting that in his first year he'll read one point of view and spout about "..."; in his second year, he'll read someone else and claim "..." and so on. Will's final challenge to the Grad Student is to ask him when he will actually produce a thought of his own or will he just spend his life plagiarizing someone else's ideas.
The point of the scene, and my reference here, is to remind ourselves that you simply can't claim to have mastered an understanding of the human psyche by reading just one book.
But, you can make great progress in understanding yourself and working toward a more compassionate view of your family by getting through James' work. There will be times when it won't be easy, but I encourage you to stick it out. You'll read about the "family script" and the role you play - and although you may not acquire from this book the tools you'll need to make important changes in how you identify and respond to situations, you will at least gain a significant amount of awareness that will help you to decide if you want to learn how to deal differently with the issues you face and how you live your life.
Nearly all of the reviews you'll find on Amazon are very positive, but you'll find the one or two which challenge the academic rigor supporting the positions of the author. Have no fear, this may not be the book that addresses all of your challenges, but it may be the book that gets you started on a tremendous journey of awareness.
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